Rejection happens frequently, but as a person with a disability, it’s happens daily. I smiled while thinking back about yesterday, the initial shock of hearing the word “Declined” was devastating, in that moment my life came to a dead end. Shattered. Yet today, I’m right back to the drawing board… mentally strong and ready to grow stronger and become better.

In business especially the Corporate World, you are up against the best of the best. Whether it’s applying for the job that just became vacant at your workplace or bidding for a tender, there’s competition in every corner just waiting to knock you out.

Ever notice how being turned down stops some people from trying again, while others bounce back from rejection stronger than before? Rejection stings, no doubt.

Rejection is not only about love, it also includes being excluded from a social engagement, or isolated during a group conversation, it hurts. The way you choose to respond to rejection, however, could determine the entire course of your future.

Steps I take to overcome rejection:

  1. I deal with my emotions, rather than suppress, ignore, or deny the pain, I feel every bit of sadness until I feel it no more.
  2. Like taking a wrong turn, in the road lies a Tree, you swerve onto a different route only to look back and see that Tree stopped you from driving off the cliff. The “No” is a detour to the road you are meant to be on.
  3. Everything happens for a reason. EVERYTHING.
  4. We all feel embarrassed, sad, disappointed, or discouraged. That’s ok.
  5. I made it this far. Imagine the future.
  6. It’s not personal, remember that. If you can get this message through to yourself, you are 90% ahead of dealing with this setback.
  7. Trying to minimize the pain by convincing yourself–or someone else–it was “no big deal” will only prolong your pain.
  8. Rejection serves as proof that I’m living life to the fullest. Don’t be afraid to go for it. If you never get rejected, you may be living too far inside your comfort zone.
  9. I use it as a lesson to work on my weaknesses and enhance my strengths. ‘What did I gain from this?’
  10. I don’t let rejection and failure define me.

Yesterday seemed gloomy, hurt and crushed. I woke up with a fresh new perspective.

You are not alone, I’m right beside you every step of the way. Use rejection as an opportunity to move forward with more wisdom.